| 
			
			   
			
			 What does the 
		church of Christ teach about Relationships With God?
			
			
			 What does the Bible say about 
			our relationship with God?
			
			  
			
			  
			Do You Have a Right Relationship With 
			God?  
	Many 
	have been the times I have heard people say that obedience to God is not as 
	important as our relationship with Him.  People believe that God knows 
	their heart and that if they have love for God in their hearts then His 
	grace will somehow make up the difference between obedience and 
	disobedience.  I have spoken with people who say they have their own 
	relationship with God and that they do not have to attend the assemblies of 
	the saints or seek God's will through His word and live in obedience to that 
	will.  The purpose of this lesson is to examine the various 
	characteristics of our relationship with God and to determine what the word 
	of God teaches about our relationship to God.   
	
	According to Paul in Timothy 3:16-17, the scriptures are inspired, meaning 
	they are given under the direct supervision of God.  They are 
	profitable for a number of things such as doctrine, reproof, for correction 
	and for instruction in righteousness.  Taken as a whole they are able 
	to thoroughly equip mankind for all good works.  So with that in mind, 
	we are going to examine what the word of God says about having a right 
	relationship with God.   
	There 
	are several characteristics of a relationship with God mentioned in scripture.  
	 
	1)  
	We have the relationship of love.  We are commanded to Love God in 
	Matthew 22:37, "Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God 
	with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind." And 
	God is said to love us in John 3:16, "For God so loved the world, that he 
	gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not 
	perish, but have everlasting life."   
	Now does 
	this mean an emotional type of love that we have in our hearts, or does this 
	mean a love which manifests itself in action?  Let's consider the words 
	of Jesus as recorded in John 14:15, "If ye love me, keep my commandments."  
	Jesus went on in this very chapter to expound greatly on the concept of an 
	obedient love.  John records this for us in John 14:21, "He that 
	hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that 
	loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will 
	manifest myself to him."  Then Jesus went on to say this in verses 
	23-24, "Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep 
	my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make 
	our abode with him. He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the 
	word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me." 
	So we 
	see here that our love for God must be accompanied with obedience to His 
	will.  Lack of obedience indicates a lack of love on our part.  So 
	from the words of Jesus as recorded by John, our relationship of love for 
	God is built on the foundation of our obedience to Him.  according to 
	the words of Jesus as recorded in scripture, when there is 
	no obedience, then there is no love.   
	2)  
	We have the relationship of friendship with God:  In John 
	15:15 we have the words of Jesus recorded as teaching, "Henceforth I call 
	you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I 
	have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I 
	have made known unto you."  Jesus considers us His friends.  
	Backing up one verse to 14, Jesus teaches us what we must do in order to be 
	considered His friend, "Ye are my 
	friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you."  So we see here that 
	our relationship of friendship, like our loving relationship with God is 
	dependant upon obedience to His commands.   
	Abraham 
	was called the friend of God.  We can learn about that in James 
	2:21-23, "Was not Abraham our father justified by works, when he had 
	offered Isaac his son upon the altar?  Seest thou how faith wrought 
	with his works, and by works was faith made perfect?  And the scripture 
	was fulfilled which saith, Abraham believed God, and it was imputed unto him 
	for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God".  Abraham's 
	friendship was built on his obedience to God.   
	Where 
	there is no obedience, there is no love.  Likewise where there is no 
	obedience, there is no friendship with God.   
	3) We 
	have a family relationship with God:  One one occasion while teaching, 
	Jesus mother and His brothers had come to see Him.  When Jesus was told 
	they were there waiting to see Him, He replied with these words, " 
	Matthew 
	12:46-50 
	"While he yet talked to the people, behold, his mother and his brethren 
	stood without, desiring to speak with him. Then one said unto him, Behold, 
	thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee.  
	But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who 
	are my brethren?  And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, 
	and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!" 
	Jesus 
	went on to say, "For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in 
	heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother."  Jesus 
	taught that those who are obedient to God are more His family than His own 
	flesh and blood relatives.   
	4)  
	We have a relationship with God as His children:  Paul wrote in 
	Galatians 3:26, "For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ 
	Jesus".  John wrote in 1:12, 
	"But as many as received him, to them gave he 
	power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name".   
	And of course, this makes God our Father.  Jesus affirms this 
	relationship in Matthew 23:9, "And call no man your father upon the 
	earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven."   
	
	Obedience to God is just as vital an element of this relationship as any of 
	the others.  Let us consider the words of John in 1 John 3:10, "In 
	this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: 
	whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not 
	his brother."  Those who are not obedient do not get any benefit 
	from the family relationship we have as the children of our spiritual 
	father.  Paul pronounced the wrath of God upon children of 
	disobedience in Ephesians 5:6, "Let no man 
	deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of 
	God upon the children of disobedience." 
	Those 
	who are obedient and do righteousness are the children of God.  John 
	taught this in 1 John 3:7, "Little children, let no man deceive you: he that 
	doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous." 
	Those 
	who are not obedient to the will of God are therefore not the children of 
	God, rather, they are the children of the devil, being children of 
	disobedience.   
	5)  
	Christians have a Fellowship relationship with God: 
	1 John 1:3, "That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that 
	ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the 
	Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ." 
	But, 
	John wrote in 1 John 1:6, "If we say that we have fellowship with him, 
	and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth".   Walking 
	in darkness is the opposite of walking in the light.  Jesus had this to 
	say about walking in darkness and light, " I am the light of the world: he 
	that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of 
	life" (John 8:12).   
	Those 
	who claim to be in fellowship with God, but are not following after Jesus, 
	walking in the light and living obediently, are not telling the truth.  
	They do not have the fellowship with God they claim to have.  Therefore 
	the Christians fellowship relationship with God is dependent completely upon 
	their obedience to His will.   
	6) 
	Christians have a bondservant relationship with God:  Several 
	Christians in the first century affirmed this in writing.  Paul 
	referred to himself as a bondservant in Romans 1:1, Galatians 1:10, 
	Philippians 1:1 and Titus 1:1.  Paul 
	referred to Epaphras as a bondservant in Colossians 4:12 and Timothy as a 
	bondservant in Philippians 1:1.   Peter 
	referred to himself as a bondservant in 2 Peter 1:1.  Jude and James 
	both did this in the first verses of the epistles written by them as well.   
	
	Concerning the bondservant relationship we have with God, Peter wrote in 1 
	Peter 2:15-17, "For this is the will of God, that by doing good you may 
	put to silence the ignorance of foolish men — 16 as free, yet not using 
	liberty as a cloak for vice, but as bondservants of God."  Peter 
	taught his readership to conduct themselves like bondservants of God. 
	 
	Paul, 
	while giving instruction to earthly bondservants, had this to say concerning 
	this relationship we are to have with God, "Bondservants, be obedient to 
	those who are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, 
	in sincerity of heart, as to Christ; not with eyeservice, as men-pleasers, 
	but as bondservants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart" 
	(Ephesians 6:5-6).   Our bondservice must come from our hearts, 
	meaning it is our desire to have this relationship with God, and as such, we 
	are obligated to conduct ourselves in the same manner towards God as an 
	earthly bondservant is obligated to his master here on earth.  
	 
	The word "bondservant" comes from the Greek word "doulos" 
			which literally means either a slave or a bondservant.  A 
			bondservant is a person bound in servitude to another human being as 
			an instrument of labor.  Sometimes someone who owed a debt they 
			could not pay would offer themselves as bondservants until such time 
			as the debt was satisfied.  This is the relationship which 
	several inspired writers claimed to be in towards Jesus Christ.  In every case 
			mentioned, the same Greek word, "doulos" was used.  
			 
			Scripture teaches us that all have sinned 
			and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23) and as a 
			consequence of that are dead in their trespasses 
			(Colossians 2:12).  Paul taught in Ephesians 2:5 that those who 
			are dead are made alive together with Christ.  This was 
			accomplished through the atoning work of Jesus on the cross when He 
			shed His blood for the sins of mankind.  With His death, Jesus 
			Christ satisfied the death penalty each and ever accountable 
			individual owes for their transgressions.  There is a penalty 
			associated with sin.  This penalty is death (Romans 6:23).  
			Jesus paid that penalty at great personal cost and thereby placed us 
			in the position of owing Him our very lives.  While Jesus paid 
			this sin debt for all, Christians are not free to live their lives 
			as they see fit.   
			Because of what Jesus did on the cross for all 
			mankind, a debt which we can never repay has been paid for us.  
			We owe our lives to Jesus Christ.  This is a debt we can never 
			repay.  Christians are called to offer their bodies a living 
			sacrifice to God in Romans 12:1.  Sacrifices are required to be 
			of the free will nature.  Therefore Christians are called to 
			offer their lives as bondservants to Christ.  Being made free 
			from the sin which enslaves us and kills us, we willingly offer 
			ourselves as bondservants to Jesus Christ.  This relationship 
			of a bondservant to Christ is described by Paul in 1 Corinthians 
			7:22-23, "For he that was called in the Lord being a bondservant, 
			is the Lord's freedman: likewise he that was called being free, is 
			Christ's bondservant. Ye were bought with a price; become not 
			bondservants of men." 
			A bondservant remains in voluntary 
			service until one of two things occurs.  Either the debt is 
			paid or the 
			bondservant dies during the period of time required to satisfy the 
			debt owed.  Since it is the Christians' very life which is to be 
			offered as a living sacrifice it is understood that the cost of 
			salvation can never be fully repaid to Jesus by mankind.  There 
			is simply nothing mankind can do, either collectively or 
			individually that can repay what it cost Jesus to offer us 
			salvation.  There is no way we can take Jesus off the cross or 
			make it unnecessary for Him to have been there.  We cannot 
			repay what Jesus gave up for us.  The only thing we have to 
			offer in return for Jesus' amazing gift is a lifetime of willing, grateful 
			and obedient servitude.  Such is the bondservant aspect of our 
			relationship with Jesus Christ.   
			We are literally to be in voluntary bondage to 
			Christ Jesus and as such, we are obligated to conduct ourselves as 
			true bondservants.  True bondservants serve their master 
			obediently and faithfully for the duration of their bondage.  
			In the case of  a Christian, this term of service is for life. 
			 
	7)  As bondservants of God, naturally 
	we have a Master.  Matthew 23:8-10, "But be not ye called Rabbi: for 
	one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren. And call no man 
	your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven. 
	Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ."  
	Our Master in the bondservant relationship is Jesus Christ and we see the 
	reference here to God as the Father which speaks to the family relationship 
	we have.   
	Another term in scripture for "Master" 
	is the word "Lord".   In Luke 
	6:46, Jesus is recorded as asking, "And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?"  
	Jesus is asking why someone would acknowledge Him as their Lord and Master 
	but not obey Him?  When we do not obey Jesus, He is not our master.  
	Jesus taught in Matthew 6:24, "No man can serve two masters: for either 
	he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, 
	and despise the other..."  Those who claim Christ as Lord but do 
	not obey Him do not have the right to call Him Lord.     
	8)  The 
	relationship of knowing God.  This means knowing His will, His love, 
	His mercy and His nature.  John wrote concerning this in 1 John 
	2:3-6, "And hereby we do know that we know him, if we keep his commandments. He that saith, I know him, and keepeth 
	not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him".  
	According to John, anyone who claims to know Christ but is not obedient to 
	Him is a liar and has no truth in Him at all.  John goes on to say 
	starting in verse 5, "But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: 
	hereby know we that we are in him. He that saith he abideth in him ought 
	himself also so to walk, even as he walked". 
	If we do 
	not know God, then it is reasonable to conclude that He does not know us.   
	Jesus wrote in Matthew 7:21-23, "Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom 
	of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in 
	thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many 
	wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart 
	from me, ye that work iniquity". 
	 
	How is 
	your relationship with God?  Is your relationship with God according to 
	scripture?  Are you an active participant in your relationship with 
	God?   
	1) 
	Do you 
	love God,    You can answer that by asking whether or not you are 
	obedient to Him.   
	2)  Are you 
	a friend of God?  You can answer that by asking whether or not you are obedient to 
	Him. 
	3)  Are you 
	in fellowship with God?  You can answer that by asking whether or not you are 
	obedient to Him. 
	4)  Are you 
	a child of God?  You can answer that by asking whether or not you are obedient to 
	Him. 
	5)  Is God 
	your Father?  You can answer that by asking whether or not you are obedient to Him. 
	6)  Is Jesus 
	your Lord and Master?  You can answer that by asking whether or not you are obedient to Him. 
	7)  Do you 
	know God?  You can answer that by asking whether or not you are obedient to Him. 
	8)  Does God know you?  You can answer that by asking whether or 
	not you are obedient to Him. 
	Is your 
	relationship built on obedience or is it built on an emotional state? 
	Do you love God the way God says He wants to be loved in scripture, or do 
	you love God the way you want to love Him?  Are you an obedient friend 
	of God, or is your friendship with God a one way friendship?  Is your 
	fellowship with God based on obedient service to Him?  Are you an 
	obedient child of God or are you a disobedient and rebellious child?  
	Are you a faithful and obedient bondservant of Christ or do you serve God 
	your way?  Do you know God, does God know you? 
	 
	Romans 
	6:16-18 
	"Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his 
	servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience 
	unto righteousness? But God be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, 
	but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine which was delivered 
	you. Being then made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness." 
  
	We all 
	yearn for and seek a relationship with God.  We love Him so much for 
	what He did for us.  We recognize that nothing we can ever do could 
	earn us a relationship with Him.  This relationship is offered because 
	of God's favor, because of His grace.  God loved us enough to send His 
	Son to die for our sins.  Jesus loved us enough to willingly offer 
	Himself as a sacrifice for us.  He died at our hands so that we may be 
	saved.  We can't repay that debt.  We don't deserve what He did 
	for us.  We can't do anything to merit such love and sacrifice in any 
	way.  But what we can do, is honor the sacrifice and love that God 
	demonstrated on our behalf with the love and sacrifice of ourselves back to 
	him.  Paul wrote in Romans 12:1, "I beseech you therefore, brethren, 
	by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, 
	holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service."  
	 
	Christ 
	died for us, let's live for Him.  He is our Lord and master, let us be 
	obedient bondservants. 
	God is our Father, let us be His obedient children. 
	God loves us so very dearly, let us love Him both in heart and in service. 
	Jesus wants to be our friend, let us be obedient friends to Him. 
	Jesus wants to know us, let us seek His will and obey Him so that we can 
	know Him.   
	Do you 
	have a relationship with God?  This is a question every accountable 
	person must ask.  A one way relationship with God is not good enough.  
	You may have a relationship with God in your own mind, but if you are not 
	obedient to His will, your relationship with God is not right.  Matthew 
	7:21-23, "Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord, Lord,' shall enter the 
	kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many 
	will say to Me in that day, 'Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your 
	name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?' 23 
	And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from Me, you who 
	practice lawlessness!"  If your relationship with God does not 
	include obedience, Jesus says not only do you not have a relationship with 
	me, I don't even know you.   
	Do you 
	have a relationship with God?  The bottom line is, if you are not 
	obedient to God, then you do not have the relationship God says you need.  
	If you are not obedient to God, you do not have the relationship God wants.   
	There are many facets of our relationship with God and every single one of 
	them is dependant upon obedience to His will.  If we take obedience out 
	of our lives, then we do not have a relationship with Him.  Our 
	obedience to God is the foundation for every characteristic of our 
	relationship with God.   
	Do you 
	have a relationship with God?  Have you heard and believed the gospel?  
	1 Corinthians 15:1-5, "Moreover, brethren, I declare to you the gospel 
	which I preached to you, which also you received and in which you stand, 2 
	by which also you are saved, if you hold fast that word which I preached to 
	you — unless you believed in vain. For I delivered to you first of all that 
	which I also received: that Christ died for our sins according to the 
	Scriptures, 4 and that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day 
	according to the Scriptures." 
	Do you 
	have a relationship with God?  Have you obeyed the gospel?  2 
	Thessalonians 1:7-10, "...when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven 
	with His mighty angels, 8 in flaming fire taking vengeance on those who do 
	not know God, and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus 
	Christ. 9 These shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the 
	presence of the Lord and from the glory of His power".  Those who 
	do not obey the gospel do not have the right relationship with God.   
	How does 
	one obey the Gospel?  The gospel is the good news of Jesus Christ.  
	Jesus Christ is the cornerstone of the gospel, therefore when we obey Jesus, 
	we obey the gospel.   
	Do you 
	have a right relationship with God? John 3:16, "For God so loved the world that 
	He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not 
	perish but have everlasting life."  Have you obeyed the command to 
	believe in Jesus Christ?  If you have then you are one step closer to 
	having the relationship God wants.  If you have not obeyed that command, 
	you are "condemned already" (John 3:18).   
	 
	Do you have a right relationship with God?  Have you repented? have you 
	turned from your sinful life and committed yourself to living a life of 
	righteousness? Jesus said in 
	Matthew 4:17, "Repent: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand".  
	And in Luke 13:3, Jesus taught, "I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, 
	ye shall all likewise perish."  If you have not repented, then you 
	do not have the relationship with God that he expects.  According to 
	God's word, you are not His friend, you do 
	not love Him, neither do you know Him and you are not His child and He is 
	not your father.   
	Do you 
	have a right relationship with God?  Have you obeyed the command to confess 
	Jesus as the Son of God before men?  Jesus taught in Matthew 10:32-33, 
	"Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also 
	before my Father which is in heaven. But whosoever shall deny me before men, 
	him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven."  If you 
	have not confessed Jesus as the Son of God before men then you have not 
	obeyed Jesus Christ.  You do not have a right relationship with God.  
	You are not Jesus' friend, you do not love Him, neither do you know Him and 
	you are not His servant and He is not your Master. 
	 
	Do you have a right relationship with God?  Have you obeyed the command to be 
	baptized?  Mark 16:16, "He that believeth and is baptized shall be 
	saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned." Jesus told Nicodemus 
	that "Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and 
	of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God" (John 3:5).  
	If you have not obeyed the command to be baptized, then you have not been 
	born of water and of the Spirit.  You are not in the kingdom of God and 
	you therefore do not have the relationship with God that he expects.  
	 
	Do you have a right relationship with God?  Are you living the life of a 
	Christian in faithful obedience to God? Are you abiding in Jesus Christ?  
	Jesus taught in John 15:4-6, "Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch 
	cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, 
	except ye abide in me. I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth 
	in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye 
	can do nothing.  If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a 
	branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, 
	and they are burned."  Jesus went on later in the same context to 
	teach how to abide in His love, John 15:10-11, "If ye keep my 
	commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father's 
	commandments, and abide in his love. These things have I spoken unto you, 
	that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full."  
	If you are not keeping Jesus' commandments, then you are not abiding in His 
	love.  You therefore do not love Him, you are not His friend, he does 
	not know you, you are not His servant, He is not your Master, you are not 
	His child and He is not your Father.   
	Do you 
	have a right relationship with God?  If you realize that you do not, you should know that you 
	can.  A relationship with God is offered to "whosever will" 
	Revelation 22:17 teaches, "And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And 
	let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And 
	whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely".  Peter 
	taught in 1 Peter 1:22-23, "Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying 
	the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that 
	ye love one another with a pure heart fervently: Being born again, not of 
	corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and 
	abideth for ever."   
	God 
	wants to have a relationship with you.  He wants you to love Him, he 
	wants you to be in fellowship with Him, he wants you to be His child, He 
	wants to be your Father.  God made the first step towards the 
	relationship He wants when He offered us a means of reconciliation and 
	salvation through the cross of Christ.  We have a role to serve if we 
	want to have a relationship with God that is good and right.  
	 
	A right relationship with God starts with obedience from the heart.  Your 
	right relationship with God is maintained by obedience from the heart.  And 
	your relationship with God depends on obedience from the heart.  
	 
	Hebrews 
	10:22-23 
	"let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having 
	our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure 
	water.  Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, 
	for He who promised is faithful." 
	  
			  
			
			
			More about 
			Christian Living 
			  
			   |